Support FOR couples

Ready to go from surviving to thriving as a couple?

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Everything looks good on the outside: the perfect house, great jobs, but inside, it doesn’t feel so good.

I get it. Life happens and we all go through tough seasons. What it may look like:

  • The loving connection that once brought you together is gone. The joy and spark that once existed has been replaced with mundane routines and a lack-luster sex life, at best

  • You go through the motions of life and if you only scraped the surface, things could be mistaken as “fine,” but you feel like roommates more often that not and miss the days when the love and connection was strong

  • Maybe nothing is horribly “wrong,” but nothing feels right either. Maybe some resentments have built up over time and it’s easier to let a wedge grow than it is to do the work to change or improve the complacency that’s become the status quo.

  • Maybe the wedge has grown over time and you see more of what your partner does wrong than what they do right. You have one foot out the door, but find yourself wondering what life would be like alone

What I know to be true is that most couples don’t get divorced because of a lack of love; they grow apart because neither part feels seen or heard.

Let’s work towards getting you both on the same page by creating a safe space in our sessions, so you can create a new season in your relationship as you start to re-ignite the flame and bring some of that spark back, or at the very least, decrease resentments that have built over time.

I believe that you can create a new marriage within an old-outdated marriage. It takes new agreements, new commitments, and a willingness to see each other in new ways in order to create patterns that will let the love start flowing again.

I’m here when you’re ready.

Your relationships are worth investing in.

All relationships go through tough seasons… but you don’t have to stay stuck. I’m here to help you create a new path forward.

In long-term committed relationships, resentments are bound to happen. When you commit your life to someone and run a family business together, there are a lot of thing that can go wrong. But just because you’re stuck or experiencing a hard time right now, it doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.

Like anything good in life, it takes hard work. It takes a willingness to see and take ownership of your part and to be willing to commit to change. As a therapist, I don’t do the blame game, and instead, help couples see how the problems that exist in their marriage or partnership are a result of dynamics created as a result of how they relate as a couple. Gottman calls these “perpetual patterns.” My job is to identify and highlight each of your part in how these dynamics or problems are co-created, so that you can take charge of your part and create a new pattern.

Some couples experience shifts in a very short period of time, while others make slow and incremental changes over a longer period of time; it all depends on where you are starting from and how long-standing the patterns have been. If it becomes clear at any point that one partner has more of their own personal work to do in regard to taking accountability for their part, I will recommend individual support before joining together as a couple.

What we’ll work on

Here’s what we’ll do together:

  • Explore your history as a couple, assessing for ruptures of trust that have led to a breakdown in communication or feelings of safety over time

  • Work towards facilitating repairs by first creating a safe space for both parties to feel seen & heard

  • Offer education and exercises to increase your insight and to build your awareness of what’s working vs what’s not working so that you can step into new patterns

  • Recommend resources to further build your knowledge outside of sessions

  • Provide you with a new path forward, offering ways to create new connections points that continue building safety and trust

FAQS

What others have wondered about therapy for relationships

  • This all depends on several factors, including how long the problems have existed, your willingness and readiness to chance when you enter, as well as each parties openness to seeing their part in creating the dynamics that exist. This is why some couples are better starting off with individual support to get to a better place to begin couples work.

  • Some times sessions get tense, as expected when we revisit difficult events, but often, this is necessary to work through before things get better.

    But if things get worse consistently or arguments start because of therapy, we will reassess whether it is the right fit or time for you as a couple to do this work, as many other factors come into play.

  • Again, every couple is different and comes in in a different space, but generally speaking, this work creates safety and new connections points on topics where walls went up and one party shut down. So you can expect a renewed sense of connection, being loved, seen and supported, but this also depends on your willingness to open up and allow yourself to be vulnerable in our sessions. As with many things, what you put in, is what you get out. I am invested in your growth.

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Don’t stay stuck.